Before I officially start the article, I would like to ask you to share your understanding of the word “endure”

I am an irritable person because of mysophobia. To put it simply, if someone soils my things, I will feel very irritable. Although it has improved now, I can usually control my temper well in daily life and face various things with a gentle and kind attitude. However, as soon as someone messes with my stuff, I turn into an angry demon. No matter the situation, I would immediately strike back and find it difficult to control my anger at that moment. I feel like these people are targeting me. For example, I once had three pairs of my own shoes on my shoe rack, but one day it rained and my roommate put his shoes on top of my shoes. I threw my shoes to the ground angrily and sent two dissatisfied voice messages. However, after a while, my roommate sent me a message saying, “I’m sorry, I won’t do this again next time.”

I like to share things in life with my friends, but most of the time, she will ask me the same question many times, and I will feel very irritated. After explaining it to her, I will correct her answer, but the response I will get is It’s her impatience or quibbling.

After experiencing this kind of thing, I accidentally read an article that enlightened me and forced me to face two facts.

Seeing things from the other person’s perspective is completely different from seeing things from my perspective. It can be explained in another sentence: you see a thing A and have a viewpoint B, then the distance between you and B is actually much smaller than the distance between the thing A itself and the viewpoint B. In other words, the B you see is not actually the thing A itself, but you see yourself. My shoes are the lowest in the entire shoe rack and are easier to stack. Others may just put them there for the sake of tidiness in the house without considering other issues. But I think it is good for me to keep my shoes on them. Shoes and my personal disrespect.

Everyone can make mistakes, and it may not be specific to me. Misunderstandings are the other party’s fault and have nothing to do with me. If the other party can wake up on their own, both parties will benefit. If the other party insists on their own ideas, there is actually no need to correct them, because my matter is already completed the moment I press the send button.~

Through these two new understandings, I feel that I finally understand what patience is. Before this, my understanding of patience was pure endurance and being hurt. It was not until I understood patience that I realized that there was no patience at all in this matter. Because

Therefore, patience is not simply enduring, but more like finding one’s own place and overcoming some of one’s habits.

I know that in today’s society, everyone will experience similar examples. So I hope my thoughts on humiliation can be helpful to you. Patience is not about enduring, but more like finding a suitable position for yourself and overcoming some of your own habits. Therefore, we should always think that everyone should be responsible for their own actions, and they should not bear the responsibility of enlightening education. In this way. when we are humiliated, we will not fall into large mood swings and uneasiness.

Finally. I would like to borrow a quote from my favourite teacher to ask you: “When we fall into anger when we want to fight back immediately, is such a very small thing, or a huge thing? People can fight Is it something like world peace or something trivial? So where should the So-called courage be reflected?